The Brand Called You · 2026-07-31 · 25 min
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17 / 100
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Vishal Kumar Singh redefines modern fatherhood beyond the traditional provider-protector role, sharing how he transitioned from a six-day-a-week corporate job to become a hands-on father while actually tripling his earnings over three years. His platform, Platform of Papas, addresses a critical gap in parenting discourse by positioning fathers as co-parents rather than secondary caregivers. Singh argues that the psychic development of children begins at six months, making paternal presence and emotional connection non-negotiable, not optional. He tackles common myths constraining fathers - particularly workplace cultures that stigmatize family priorities and the false dichotomy between career ambition and family engagement. The conversation covers emotional intelligence development, vulnerability as a leadership value, family code of honor, and focus/energy management rather than time management as the real lever for balance. Singh's lived experience - moving from workaholism to intentional fatherhood during COVID-19 - provides practical credibility for executives and professionals wrestling with similar transitions.
Successful fathers often maintain a provider-protector identity rooted in outdated gender roles, becoming too logical and removed to hand-hold children emotionally. They also miss moments during critical development windows (starting at six months) because they view career success as the primary contribution, failing to see that presence and emotional connection are equally essential.
Older fathers (60+) most commonly regret spending time providing financially while traveling instead of being physically present, resulting in adult children who don't feel the need to spend time with them. Younger fathers regret becoming so logical and career-focused despite living under the same roof that they fail to identify relational gaps until damage is done.
Fathers must work on their own emotional fitness through self-development first, then practice availability and vulnerability with their children. Children are born with emotions and learn emotional expression by observing their parents; when fathers model openness rather than hiding struggles, children develop healthier emotional communication patterns.
Yes, by focusing on energy and focus management rather than time management. A father working 12-14 hours can take a two-hour distraction-free break with family and deliver his best version during that time, while someone with a relaxed 9-to-6 job who thinks constantly about work insecurities cannot. Quality presence during available hours matters more than quantity of hours.
A super dad is the superlative version of a father who is at his best version, at ease with himself, and operates from possibility rather than remaining a prisoner of known. He brings presence and purpose to parenting through consistent emotional availability and co-parenting with mothers.
Our reviewer’s read on each dimension, with quotes from the episode.
The episode is almost entirely composed of generic self-help platitudes about fatherhood with zero B2B relevance. Even evaluated purely as parenting coaching content, there are no non-obvious claims - every point (be present, work on yourself, quality time matters) is obvious to any adult listener.
it's all about better focus management, better energy management
if you are not growing, you are dying
Every framework deployed is a well-worn self-help trope. 'Prisoner of known,' 'see things as we are not as they are,' and 'if you're not growing you're dying' are recycled coaching clichés with no first-principles reasoning or contrarian edge.
all this while I was a prisoner of known
we see things as we are
The guest is a self-styled 'Super Dad Coach' with a small personal brand and a background as a commission-based sales professional. No meaningful scale, no verifiable client outcomes, and no domain expertise relevant to B2B operators is demonstrated in the transcript.
I was a sales professional and before getting into coaching I had three years of a commission based role
in three financial years, 2021, 2122 and 2223, I tripled my earnings when the focus was on being a hands on father
The sole piece of quantified evidence is the guest's personal earnings claim ('tripled my earnings') with no methodology, baseline, or external validation. One developmental claim about children ('psychic development starts from six months') is asserted without any citation. The rest is pure anecdote.
in three financial years, 2021, 2122 and 2223, I tripled my earnings when the focus was on being a hands on father
the psychic development of children start from six months
The host asks entirely surface-level, pre-scripted questions and responds to every answer with 'very interesting,' 'absolutely,' or 'well said' without a single follow-up probe or challenge. The closing segment devolves into the host sharing his own affirming anecdotes rather than extracting more value from the guest.
Very interesting. Very interesting.
Very fascinating.
Computed from the transcript - who did the talking, and the words that came up most.
Welcome to another inspiring episode of The Brand Called You ! In this episode, host Ashutosh Garg is joined by Vishal Kumar Singh , Super Dad Coach and Founder of Platform of Papas , for a thought-provoking conversation on redefining modern fatherhood. Vishal shares his journey from corporate leadership to becoming a coach dedicated to helping fathers build deeper relationships with their children. He explains why being a provider alone is no longer enough and how emotional presence, vulnerability, and continuous self-development can transform both parenting and leadership at home. The conversation explores the challenges fathers face today, the myths surrounding fatherhood, and practical ways to balance ambition with family while raising emotionally intelligent children. Whether you're a father, a leader, or someone committed to personal growth, this episode offers valuable insights into creating a meaningful legacy through intentional parenting. If you enjoyed this conversation, like, share, and
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Speaker A: Foreign.
Speaker B: Welcome to another episode of the brand called you, uh, a vodkast and podcast show that brings you leadership lessons, knowledge, experience and wisdom from thousands of successful individuals from around the world. I'm your host, Ashutosh Garg. And today I'm delighted to welcome an accomplished professional and a coach from Bangalore, India, Mr. Vishal Kumar Singh. Vishal, welcome to the show.
Speaker A: Thank you so much.
Speaker B: Thank you. Vishal, uh, is in his own words, a super dad coach and he's the founder of the platform of Papas. So Vishal, uh, my first question. Tell me about your childhood and the role your father played in shaping who you are today.
Speaker A: Okay, so yes, my father was a very good uh, family member I would say. And uh, that's where he has taken care of most of our emotional needs. Uh, uh, you know, uh, yes, the financial needs and the other basic necessities that a father needs to be needs to provide. However, uh, the emotional needs and the connection and the availability, you know, so this shaped my childhood and uh, I am giving the same thing to my kids.
Speaker B: Very interesting. Was there a specific moment when you realized that a great provider was not enough to be a great father?
Speaker A: So this uh, takes back to my engineering days and uh, I somehow got a feeling that uh, though the provision was made in terms of uh, finances or the necessary arrangements that I needed to be a good student. However, at that level, when you are uh, you know, a teenager, when you are stepping out of your house, there is an important human need that is called understanding. Someone needs to be understood. And somewhere I felt that was missing during the time I was stepping out of my house. And that led to a bit of generation gap.
Speaker B: M. And how do you define the word super dad?
Speaker A: Okay, so basically super dad is a superlative version of uh, dads. So when I got into my self development and started learning things, I understood that all this while I was a prisoner of known. However, because of these learnings I became someone who can look at possibilities for myself and create a path forward. Okay. And in order to do that, one has to be his or her best version.
Speaker B: Sorry, go ahead, go ahead please.
Speaker A: Yeah, uh, when you are at your best version, you are at ease.
Speaker B: Very interesting.
Speaker A: So this is a super dad.
Speaker B: Very interesting. And what in your view was the hardest part of transitioning from a corporate leader to a super dad coach?
Speaker A: Okay, so I wouldn't say uh, hardest part because uh, you know, I uh, was a sales professional and before getting into uh, coaching I had three years uh, of a commission based role. So I had quit My full time job to be with my daughter. But I continued to work with same company on a commission basis as I was a sales professional. You know. So the transition or the hardest part with the family member was my wife would tell me that in spite of quitting your job, you are still like that, you know. So then my answer would be that this is a period of transition. At least I am at home and I am just uh, you know, uh, a uh, knock on the door away. So this I could say was the hardest part.
Speaker B: Very interesting. Tell me. You know um, I've often said that the role of fathers has traditionally been seen as that of a provider and a protector. And yet I know it's a much, much bigger role. Why do so many successful men struggle to build a strong relationship with their children?
Speaker A: Okay, so as you mentioned that uh, the role of a father has been seen of, seen as more of a uh, provider and a product protector. This goes back to the times of independence, you know, where men used to go out, fathers used to go out and mothers or the women at home also knew that whatever work my husband or you know, uh, uh, a um masculine uh, uh is doing outside is more important. And that is what they need to do because that is the priority at the moment. And they used to take care of all the you know, the widened things, you know, taking care of home, taking care of uh, you know, kids kitchen and also arranging lot many things, you know. And uh, that is where there is a change now. So with that. During our grandparents time this used to be the case. During our parents time it was mix and match of all this, you know, like how my father was a good, you know, provider, uh available, uh emotion, an emotional person and connecting with us.
Speaker B: You know.
Speaker A: I still see uh, you know, people from my friend Cir that their fathers have not uh, you know, given them this kind of life as well.
Speaker B: Okay.
Speaker A: And now I see that because of uh, all this the trend is changing. So a uh, father actually wants to express his fatherhood but is unwilling to do so because of lot of other things that are going on in his life. And it's not only about parenting.
Speaker B: It's.
Speaker A: There are a lot of other things, you know, a lot of uncertainties now especially uh, you know, uh, jobs, layoff from jobs. Okay. Uncertain times, war times and all that, you know. And that is where we need to look life from inside out. So the focus is always on self. And in spite of uncertainties, as long as we are able to see ourselves, we will remain grounded and focused on what we want to do.
Speaker B: Very interesting. Tell me Vishal, what are some of the common regrets fathers express when talking about the relationship with their children?
Speaker A: So the first, uh, regret I would see, especially when I meet, uh, fathers around 60, 62, 65 or 60 plus rather, is that all, uh, the time they could have spent with their children? Probably that went into providing. And this providing was not being in the same place and providing. It was like traveling countries and uh, not being able to spend time with their kids. And now those kids have grown up, they are adults, they are working, and they are not spending uh, time with uh, their fathers. So the problem is when uh, they were not there when kids were growing up. Now kids have, uh, you know, become independent and then don't feel the need, um, that they need to be with their father.
Speaker B: Very interesting.
Speaker A: So fathers think that uh, what is that I have done wrong because I was providing. All this was for providing for them so that they can be in good schools, I can give them good vacation, I can give them good lifestyle and also save for future in case I need to still provide them.
Speaker B: Very interesting.
Speaker A: And second thing is, uh, people who are staying under the same roof, probably because of the demanding career, they have become so logical that they are unable to, you know, hand hold the kids. Well, and that is where the decision between them and the kids are logical. And this leads to a gap and they are not even able to identify when the problem happened because they are seeing this relation from, uh, you know, uh, I can say again, a prisoner of known or from one perspective, that I am a father, they are my kids, they should listen to me, this is how they should be, this is what they should achieve by the time they become adults and all that. So it's all about more of enforcing, uh, you know, their thoughts on, or their goals, their unfinished goals on their kids.
Speaker B: Very, very interesting. Thank you. Uh, moving on. What are the biggest myths about fatherhood that need to be challenged? And how has the role of fathers evolved over the last few decades?
Speaker A: Yes. So myths of fatherhood. I would say that uh, in uh, companies, I mean, unless until your peers become your personal friends, you can't even talk about your family members.
Speaker B: Correct.
Speaker A: You know, and you can't give a personal reason as an excuse or, you know, even if it is, uh, very important, like a sports day celebration, going to a PTM or something like that, you know, so this is where I feel companies should also come forward. And uh, because see, any employee can work only when he is taken care, when they are taken care Rather. Right. So when their personal needs are not addressed, then it's of no use.
Speaker B: Very nice.
Speaker A: You know, so, so the, so uh, you know the, the core uh, thing of my work is like mothers are already considered uh, primary caregivers. So as a father, it is my initiative for other fathers to help them step into this role of presence and purpose.
Speaker B: Okay.
Speaker A: So it's all about core co parenting. Let fathers also not leave everything on, on mothers when we can also do it. That is where a uh, healthy family dynamics comes into picture. And the best that we can give our kids is a healthy family dynamic.
Speaker B: Absolutely. Well said. Coming to the platform of papas, what was the inspiration to create this platform and why do you think modern fathers need a dedicated platform and a dedicated community?
Speaker A: Okay, thank you so much. So this was born out of my own lived experience. So as I mentioned before that uh, when my daughter was six months old, uh, I saw how difficult it was for my wife to take care of our daughter alone. And we were actually, uh, we got, we had got locked down in Noida at our in laws place. And that's when I realized that uh, you know, only a mother taking care of a child is highly difficult.
Speaker B: Correct.
Speaker A: And uh, I felt the need to support her. And moreover, prior to that I used to be a workaholic. So when I had held my daughter for the first time, I somehow got a feeling that uh, I do not want to be a full time. I mean uh, I do not want to be a workaholic father for her. Okay. So this was transitioning. So I used to have six days, uh, a week, you know, at office. So initially it started with taking offs on Saturdays. And when this happened six months later, I decided that uh, I don't want to go to office full time. This was in the year of COVID you know, March 2020. We had got locked out. Okay. So then I spoke to my friend and he was okay with it. So this happened. And then prior to that I had started with my self development journey. So what happened was in three financial years, 2021, 2122 and 2223, I tripled my earnings when the focus was on being a hands on father. And then I again felt that my learnings need to be shared. And that's when I started learning coaching as a skill. Because any father thinks that unless until he earns money, he cannot take care of the family. And under uh, this identity, fathers are hiding the pain of missing moments with their kids. So I, as a father, as a coach, I would like to address this.
Speaker B: Well said. What are some of the common mistakes men make after they become fathers?
Speaker A: Okay, so I would put it this way, that uh, you know, uh, taking things for granted that it's only a mother's job and not parenting well and uh, thinking that my uh, kids or kid, boy or girl, you know, is still small. Only when he or she grows up will they think about me or know me or feel my absence or presence or whatever, you know. However, the psychic development of children start from six months. Six. Six months onwards. Okay. And that is where, when we are more available, the bonding starts happening and it keeps getting better over a period of time. Okay. So this is the first thing I could uh, uh, think of. Okay, so co parenting, being with the kid. Third is in spite of uh, you know, staying together under one roof. I think lot of fathers are missing consistency. M so in spite of doing well in profession, they have consider with a treat profession as uh, you know, something that requires their attention for five days and family only for two days.
Speaker B: Okay.
Speaker A: So they feel that even if they spend time with their children on the weekends, their role is done. M. Okay, so this is something that needs to be addressed. And it doesn't mean it has to be a quantity time. You don't have to. And I don't even say quantity time or quantity quality time. You know, weekends when you have lot of time, spend entire day with them and finally that quality time will come out when the kids start sharing. Okay. However, if you don't have time during the weekdays, spend some time but be disciplined enough without distraction. So that's why uh, a space or you know, self development is required where they can see things as they are rather than seeing things as, you know, we are.
Speaker B: Absolutely. Great response.
Speaker A: And uh.
Speaker B: Yeah, go ahead please.
Speaker A: Just one thing. Considering that family is also an important aspect of life,
Speaker B: so. Sure, I agree, I agree. You speak about family leadership. How is leading a family different from leading a business?
Speaker A: In fact it is similar because both the uh, both the uh, areas of life I can say is full of uncertainties. So it's all about embracing uncertainties.
Speaker B: Okay.
Speaker A: So living in the moment and uh, taking a decision, taking our best, uh, path forward, uh, depending on what you know, we are able to do.
Speaker B: M. My next question for you, Vishal, is how can fathers raise emotionally intelligent children if they themselves were never taught emotional intelligence?
Speaker A: Yeah, it's a very good question. And uh, they can raise an emotionally intelligence, uh, intelligent uh, children by working on themselves. So through self development they can become more emotionally aware which Means becoming emotionally fit now.
Speaker B: Okay, okay.
Speaker A: And through availability for their children, connecting with their children now they can show that, show their emotions to their children. And see, children are born with emotions. That's a, that's the reason they are crying, that's the reason they are laughing. Right. But over a period of time, especially uh, today's generation, they are actually surrounded by gadgets. Consider our uh, times we were surrounded with, you know, either family members, friends, neighbors or relatives. And our emotional need needs used to somehow get met because of uh, you know, somebody being present in our, within our vicinity. And here because of the nuclear families, it has become very difficult that a kid talks to even the neighbors. And that is where parents play a very important role. And somehow mothers are still able to take care of the emotional needs of the kids. And that's where a father needs to work on himself so that he can emotionally connect, attach or be vulnerable with their children.
Speaker B: Very interesting. You also say fathers do not have to choose between ambition and family. How can they achieve both?
Speaker A: Yeah. So because uh, suppose a father goes to a job and uh, it's all extended hours, you know, 12 hours, 14 hours. Right. But then consider that after coming back, or even if it's a work from home scenario, he can take a break for two hours and not think about work. At least for those two hours he can be with their family.
Speaker B: Right.
Speaker A: So it's all about what we do during those or the time that is available to us. So which means better focus management, better energy management, m not remaining cluttered. Uh, so some people still have a relaxed job, which means they are working nine to six. But however, because of uncertainties, what they are still thinking about that and they are not able to give their best version to their kids or family. Right. So it's all about working on uh, self and uh, rather than thinking of time management that oh, if I had eight, only eight hours at work, I could have given two, three hours to my family.
Speaker B: Right.
Speaker A: And see, this is a journey. It cannot be explained in just a minute or so. However, this is the crux. It's about better focus management, better energy management so that kids family experience our best version.
Speaker B: Very fascinating. How important is vulnerability in fatherhood?
Speaker A: So, yeah, because uh, vulnerability is one of the values I can say because if we can open up and talk to our children, they will understand the importance. And kids are learning by observing us.
Speaker B: Yeah.
Speaker A: If they feel that we are hiding something, they will also hide something from us. And they will not only hide at a particular moment, whoever they meet outside Whoever they, you know, connect outside, they wouldn't want to share their, uh, you know, the, the natural things to others.
Speaker B: Okay.
Speaker A: Right. So vulnerability is. And vulnerability is courage. So what happens is, see, when my mother used to say that you should not tell your problems to others, people will laugh on you. Okay. And see, when, till such time I was not telling people about my problems, what I was experiencing in life, M. And I got answers to those questions when I met my mentor for the first time. And that is when this self development journey started. You know, so many a times we don't see things as they are. I mentioned before, we see things as we are. And all this is conditioning.
Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. Well said. We shall have time for two more questions. Yeah. Uh, if your daughter was to describe you 50 years from now, what would you hope? She says,
Speaker A: If it is one line, I can, uh, say that, uh, he was someone who was at home that much. And then because I am at home, she knows what all things I am doing.
Speaker B: Absolutely. Great line. And my last question for you, uh, if you could tell every father in the world who's listening to our conversation, what is the single most important lesson you would teach them?
Speaker A: So one thing I would say is that, uh, uh, if you feel stuck, if you feel you are dying, like I used to feel I was dying, uh, you know, back in the middle of 2018, I learned this, uh, during my self development journey, that if you are not growing, you are dying. Right. So whatever you are experiencing in life right now, just work on yourself. There are many things that we don't know.
Speaker B: Mhm.
Speaker A: So let's come across things that we need to learn in life in order to become better. So that's why by self development or through self development, we keep becoming our better version, leading to the best version at the moment. And uh, that is what is required because then we see the larger perspective of life.
Speaker B: Okay.
Speaker A: Uh, since you said only one thing, but, uh, I would like to.
Speaker B: Yeah.
Speaker A: That uh, family is also important. So let them also prioritize family. Have a family code of honor. Some things may not be, uh, working out well. So have a family code of honor. Have a discussion rather than getting into who is right, who is wrong. Because our next generation is watching us.
Speaker B: Very true.
Speaker A: And if we have to create our next generation, let us show them what they should carry forward as a legacy to their life.
Speaker B: Very true.
Speaker A: When they become adults, when they take responsibility, start taking responsibility. Or when they have to own responsibility for a family.
Speaker B: Very true, very true.
Speaker A: Because, uh, if you talk about work if you think about, talk about whatever is happening in the external world, so many changes are happening. Jobs, AI so we don't even know what they will experience in the external world. However, if the foundation is set, ah, they will also get an environment where they can excel in life. And this is what is required.
Speaker B: Absolutely. Well said. And on that note, Michelle, I just want to say what a fascinating conversation this has been. You know, you actually, uh, have reinforced something that I've been saying for a long time, which is that the role of fathers is much more than that of just a protector and a provider. And as I see my, uh, sons looking after their children, I realize how much closer they are than my father was. But my father was my greatest friend. I know. Um, you know, so. So therefore, I know that it's a very, very evolving relationship and a very critical relationship in the lives of all our children. Thank you also for talking to me about vulnerability. Unless as a parent, I mean, and as a father, we are not vulnerable to our children. That distance will continue to grow. Yes. So I, um, think it's been a fascinating conversation. Thank you for speaking to me and good luck to you.
Speaker A: Thank you so much. Ashutosh Ji it was lovely. It was a lovely conversation with you.
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