What to Do When You Want to Quit

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Welcome to the Design youn Wedding Business podcast. The podcast for wedding professionals and creative entrepreneurs ready to build a business that is as intentional as the experiences they create. I'm Jen Taylor, business coach, system strategist, and former luxury wedding planner turned certified operational expert. I help business owners like you get out of the weeds, own your CEO role, and build a business that supports your life, not the other way around. Each episode, we'll dive into strategies, systems, and mindset shifts that bring clarity, momentum, and sustainable success. So grab your favorite beverage, get comfy, and let's design a business that you're excited to wake up to. Hello. Ken Taylor, your host for the Design youn Wedding Business podcast. What to do when you want to quit. There will be a moment or moments in your business where you think, I don't know if I want to do this anymore. It might be after a hard client, a long season, or a slow month. But that momentum doesn't mean you're failing. It means something needs attention. So let's figure it out. Normalize the thought. Believe me, every business owner has this thought. It has that moment in their business multiple times. I mean, I don't know if you've seen that graph that you see. It's just like this. It's this graph of a business owner or an entrepreneur. And it's just like up and down, up and down, up and down, go forward, and then just like a, uh, ski, you know, like run that goes straight down to the bottom. But that's how it is. It doesn't mean your business is wrong. It doesn't mean something is out of alignment. It means there is something within you that is just needs a little reset. So you first have to diagnose with what's going on. Ask yourself, are you overworked? Are you underpaid? Are you working with the wrong clients? Or do I lack systems and support and or support? Quitting is often a symptom, not the solution. So are you overworked? Let's talk about this. So are you taking on more clients? Do you not have an assistant? Do you not have the boundaries? Go to episode 144 because if you don't have the boundaries, you're going to start feeling yourself getting resentful about all of your clients. That goes with being underpaid. The resentment factor. Are, uh, you resenting your clients because you are making pennies on the dollar, working for your clients and you're over giving, you're overextending and you are literally have no time for yourself, your family, your friends, any of that. Are you working with the wrong clients? I've seen this happen where you're in a, you know, an era of, you know, something's going on in your life and it may be something that is not fun. And all of a sudden you're attracting clients that are just in the same boat as you. And you're like, what the f is going on? Where did these people come from? And then as soon as you get out of that era, you're like, wow, I have great clients. So sometimes it's just you attracting the vibration you're putting out there. So change the vibration. Change that. Also look at your clients. Are you speaking to a client that you no longer want? You've outgrown them. I've gone through many different iterations of my ideal client. And I get to a point, I'm like, God, I don't know if I want to deal with these people anymore. Like, okay, what do I want to do? Who do I want to work with? What do I want to do with my business? Because guess what? It's your business. You can do whatever you want. Like if somebody calls me today and says, I want to do a wedding in Maui, or if I want to do a wedding down the coast or up in the San Juans or in eastern Washington or, you know, eastern Oregon or whatever, I'll probably say yes, because why not? It's fun. That would be a fun thing for me to do. I would love it. Somebody called and says, I want to do, uh, a year worth of coaching with you and have you Helped me get all this stuff that you've talked about onto paper and talk about all these things and help me feel like I'm moving forward in my business and not being stuck and having all the tools to help a high performing wedding professional or women owned business. I would say yes, because those are the things I want. Now, do I lack systems or support? And this is a big one too. If you do not have the systems and the automation as I, you know, go back and listen to automate, we've talked about this. Automation doesn't mean like the very cookie cutter things. You can automate it and still be personal. But if you don't have the systems in place, you are working overtime. And if you're not letting them work and you're micromanaging, that's a whole nother thing. So go through and diagnose what you're feeling. Emotional versus strategic decisions. We just talked about emotional state. Are you tired, overwhelmed, reactive? If you get up and you're checking your email and you're reacting right off the bat, then you're never gonna be in a spot where you feel aligned in your business because you're just dealing with the. I'm putting my face or my hands towards my face like uh, you're just looking at like the snowstorm and you're driving and although that uh, snowflake is just coming, all those snowflakes are coming like you're going on like Star wars zoom. And you're just being reactive to it. Instead of the strategic state of calm, clear and objective, go take a nap, go take a break. If you have, then, um, after the season's over, sit down and go take a long nap, take a spa day. And a spa day could be at home, have the kids out of the house, do whatever, go, go on the, go on the beach, go to the mountains, go to hiking, wherever and sit down and go, I am now clear, calm and I have an objective mindset that I can go through the season and look at it objectively. Instead of being in it, you're not in it, you need to be out of it and looking at it at a higher level. So never make a permanent decision from a temporary exhaustion, uh, because it's no good, look at micro shifts as you go. That changes a lot of things. Instead of quitting, raise your prices, go back listening to that podcast series, reduce your bookings. Those two probably go hand in hand. So if you still want to make the same money that you made and you're doing 20, you know, 20 weddings or 25 weddings. You're doing a wedding a weekend. Let's just say that's 26 weddings. You're not taking any breaks. You're not doing it every weekend. You've got a wedding or you've got a bunch of weddings all on one, then you need to look at, okay, I've made a lot of money, but I'm not. I'm not happy. I am completely overworked. So raising pricing and reducing bookings go hand in hand. Refine your niche or niche. Look at it. Look at your people. You know, I looked at my people lots of times, and it's, uh, I think for me now I just know it's a destination. I want to go somewhere. I have the people, add support, add on a va, get a CRM together, Talk to somebody to help you with those things and adjust your boundaries. Go through and look at your boundaries. Look at that expectation sheet and say, my best practices are this. And this is what I need for myself. I am working every other weekend. I am taking every other weekend off. And I'm, um, you know, and I'm not doing back to back unless it's, you know, ever. I say that. I've said that multiple times. And every once, every so often, there's like, somebody's like, oh, but I really want you. Um, I already have the date set, the venue set. I just want you. Great. Do you charge them more for them? You could, but that's, you know, that's kind of where we were 2017, 2018. It's like, okay. And I had a team of planners, so we didn't have to, you know, it was a rotation through on some of those things, so they all had time to break. And if they wanted a bigger wedding, we could, you know, they could do that. But we had a venue that we were part of their package. And so just making sure that everybody was taking that time so they could enjoy the summer as well. Reconnect with your. Why? Why did you really originally want to start? What do you still enjoy? What would make this feel better? You don't need a new business. You need to have better structure in your business, because that's. The structure of your business will help you in the long run, no matter what. I'm working with a client now. He's been doing this for 20 years, and he's finally realizing he needs to have. He's got stuff written down. He knows what he's doing, but it's all in his head. So get it out on paper. Let's get something so we can bring on somebody to let him do what he wants to do. He is a people person. He's not, uh, behind the desk doing the things. So what are the things that you need to move on to somebody else or. No, it's going to take you longer to do that and put that in your, your routine for the week or the month. So really look at having those boundaries, that system in place, that structure in place so you know what you're doing when. So your call to action this week is write down what needs to change for this to feel good again and choose one change to implement this month. And if you want to talk more and do a business audit about your business, reach out, send me a dm, go to the calendar on my website, and let's talk about it. Everybody have a great day. Bye. If today's episode sparked an idea or gave you a nudge you needed, I'd love to hear about it. DM me on Instagram En Taylor Consulting or leave a review to help more wedding pros find this show. And if you're ready for the next level clarity and support, head over to jentaylorconsulting.com to book your free business on it. Until next time, stay focused, stay intentional, and keep designing a business that works for you.