Work-Life Balance and Lazy People

Speaker A: You know what? Let's just fucking get into it, right? Let's just fucking get into it right now. Here's what I'm fucking pissed off this morning. I know Beto is gonna sound like a guru show. I know it is. And I know you're not into the guru shows, but you know what I'm tired of, man? I'm tired of people, friends, family, tummy. They don't have time for their own podcast or for their own business. And then next time I talk to them, they ask me if I'll watch Kevin Durant's 49 point game. You know, I'm saying that's three fucking hours you just wasted on a guy who has been working his whole life to get where he's at 20 hours a day. Sometimes I'm tired of it, and I'm tired of people going, but what about my home life? You know, Balance, work life balance. Um, I'm like, you know what? That's fucking fine and dandy if you can afford a work life balance right now. That if you're trying to get to, uh, somewhere, if you're trying to launch a podcast, get to a business, and you have to work still at another job because you need that income coming in. Guess what? You need to fucking work 80 hours a week. You have to fucking eat the shit now so that later you can only work 40 hours a week in your own business if you're not doing it. And if you're not gonna put that kind of sacrifice in, then you obviously don't want it that bad.

Speaker B: Did we have a Eat Shit episode already?

Speaker A: We had an Eat Shit episode at one point. Or at least we talked about the Eat Shit.

Speaker B: Yeah.

Speaker A: But I'm just tired of it because I've been hearing it a lot lately. I guess it may be people are, uh, you know, now that they're seeing our podcast get a little bit more popular, they're like, well, yeah, but, you know, I don't really have time for this. But then I see them, um, with a fucking margarita by a pool at 4 o' clock in the afternoon, going, oh, relaxing after a hard day's work.

Speaker B: Well, that's kind of what I was saying yesterday, in a way, is, is, I, I, I, I hate, I hate. Oh, man, I lost my thought. But, yeah, it pisses me off that to see that, to see people like that that are just, um, they don't want to put in the work, man. Yeah, like, they just want, they want the end result, but they don't want to do the Work to get it done.

Speaker A: Well, it's not even that. It's like. And then they convince themselves that they don't have the time to do it. And they don't realize how much they're wasting. How much time they're wasting with an insignificant, um. I'm not kidding you, like, insignificant football game on a Sunday, that's three to six. If you watch all the games, that's nine hours you just wasted on a Sunday.

Speaker B: And I think that's why I hate sports. It just seems like such a wasted time. And I get that it's entertainment and all that, but it's, it's, uh. I feel like you could be doing something more productive with your time if you really want it. Right.

Speaker A: Entertainment I get. Entertainment I get. You want work, life balance. Okay. You know, uh, when I was in San Antonio, I went to a few spurs games, but I didn't sit glued to a tv. Like, I see people, like, I don't know how many times I see people on my Facebook because I'm in New York, and I see people from New York posting. Every time the Yankees are playing, they're posting updates. I'm like, that's those baseball games last over fucking three hours sometimes, and you're watching 182 of them.

Speaker B: Yeah.

Speaker A: You know, that's just wasted time. I get, I get going to a Yankee game and having fun with your family or going to a Spurs game or a football game, but every Sunday, sitting for six to nine hours, wasting weekly. You know, six to nine hours a week just on, uh, on football games that don't even matter to you because that's not even your team playing when you're watching all three of them.

Speaker B: Yeah. If you, uh, to me, if I did that, it would feel like I'm wasting away my life. Like, you go back in 30 years and look at all the Sundays or whatever you spent watching nine hours of football.

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: And then you add that shit up. You know what I mean?

Speaker A: Yeah, exactly. That's exactly what I mean. And, and you like. And again, think about the significance of that football game in the long term. Does it fucking matter that you watched game four into a season of, of your football teams? Uh, you know, 20, 21 season? Does it matter? Does that fourth game really matter to you that much that you can't spend three hours working on your side hustle instead of watching the game?

Speaker B: They just don't want it bad enough.

Speaker A: Exactly. That's. That's all I'm saying. You don't want it bad enough.

Speaker B: Well, those are the dreamers that I've talked about before, that they. They dream of the after life.

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: Not the afterlife, but they're dreaming about what the. The end product, the end result. They. They want to live that life now without putting in the work. I mean, how many people do we know that are like that personally?

Speaker A: Well, now more and more. More and more. Um, I'm seeing people that are like, well, I don't have the time for that. But then I see them doing other shit that just does. Is meaningless. I don't. And I don't mean spending time with your family or going on vacation. I don't mean these things. I mean the truly meaningless shit of watching, uh. Like I keep on bringing the sports with sports is my. Most of my friends watch sports. Of watching sports or playing video games. Playing video games for hours a day or hours a week. Those are the meaningless times that I'm talking about. I'm not talking about you go out with your family for a weekend or fourth of July. You, you know, you have a big barbecue and spend all day with people. Those are, Those are once in a while. Those are special occasions. I'm talking about the everyday bullshit that you fucking waste your time on, like, tv and then you come back at me and tell me you don't have time to do your own podcast.

Speaker B: Well, I see that on my Facebook feed all the time of people. Like, you'll see them post one day about them wanting to do something. Right. Build something or whatever. And then. And then the next day, they're. They're like you said, they're, uh, posting by the pool or they're. Some of them are posting about, like, you know, smoking pot. Yeah. And you're like, uh, you're never gonna get your fucking goal if you're smoking pot in the middle of the day. And I'm not knocking smoking pot. I'm just saying, like, you're probably not gonna do. You're not gonna accomplish what you're trying to accomplish by smoking pot in the middle of the day every day.

Speaker A: Yeah. Yep.

Speaker B: It's just. I mean, that's just the effect. Right? But, um. Yeah, yeah.

Speaker A: I've been on the phone with people who are telling me they don't have. They don't have, um, time to do something while they're watching a fucking movie. You know, I'm saying, like, there's no joke. I was on the phone with somebody and we're talking about doing something like. Yeah, but I just don't have that much time. Uh, and I'm like, okay, you know, well, you know, sometimes we got to make time. And he's like, yeah, well, you know, I'll call you back tomorrow. I'm gonna. We're about to watch a, uh, movie. I'm like, you just told me you don't have fucking time, but you have time. And this guy wasn't with a family, is by himself, and he was about to watch a movie.

Speaker B: Yeah.

Speaker A: And those are the kind of people like, well, you obviously don't fucking want it. Then, like, what would possess you to say, hey, Juan, here's what I want to do? I don't have time. I'll talk to you later. I'm gonna watch a movie. Just doesn't even make sense. So I want people just to realize, like, think about it. Think about this, the stuff that you do all day long, and ask yourself, is this necessary? Like, is this gonna affect my life? Is this gonna take me where I want to go? For me, spending time with my family is important because that's my ultimate dream. Right. I want to spend as much time with my family as I can.

Speaker B: But even that, sometimes you have to sacrifice.

Speaker A: Correct. Sometimes you have to sacrifice that. So that's what I'm saying. There is a work life balance. I'm not saying work all the time, but I'm also saying don't lie to yourself and tell yourself you don't have time when you're obviously doing all these other insignificant tasks.

Speaker B: Well, it's like working out. It's like dieting and working out.

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: You know, and I'm. I. I'm victim of that, where it's, it's the. I don't have time. It's just me making excuses for myself.

Speaker A: It is, but I don't have time. I don't have time to make myself a healthy breakfast. You can grab a banana and a yogurt.

Speaker B: Yeah.

Speaker A: That's really fucking simple and easy. No time wasted.

Speaker B: Yeah.

Speaker A: You know?

Speaker B: Yeah.

Speaker A: Um.

Speaker B: Fuck, man. I keep forgetting the point I wanted to make about that. That, that, that makes it correlate to yesterday. It's like, right on the tip of my tongue, and I can't fucking, like, fucking. People piss me off,

Speaker A: but they do, man. People do piss me off with that kind of shit. That's why I'm so hyped up about it today. It was going to sound like more of a guru episode of, you need to go out there and get it. But sometimes it's just that simple, that if you want something, you just have to start. You got to quit making up the excuses. You got to look at your life and, and really, really, really evaluate. Is what I'm doing right now important in my life and in my future? Don't do it.

Speaker B: It comes back to the why you're doing or why you're wanting to do it too, Right?

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: Um, like what. It's like I've said before about eat now, right? So like the, or. Or even the. Do you want nice stuff now or nicer stuff later also? Right. Like it's, it's the little sacrifices. Um, and even, like I said, even with family, how many. I can't even tell you how many days I get home late, you know, seven, eight o' clock at night, where it's already going to be bedtime for my kids. So I didn't really get to spend time with them all day. But I figure I'm putting in the hard work now, the really hard work, so that I can spend even more time with them later when they are gonna remember me spending time with them, you know, like.

Speaker A: Yeah. I mean, right now my 2 year

Speaker B: old's not gonna remember that I spent all day with him. He's not gonna remember that when he's 18 or when he's 36.

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: Um, but if I get to spend a ton of time with him when he's nine, well, he's gonna remember that, you know, so I'm trying to put in as much of the hard work now and I regret starting so late in life, in my entrepreneurial journey.

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: Um, because I would. I could have been further along now. But I guess I'm, I'm where I'm supposed to be, I suppose if you're of that mindset. But, um, yeah, it's, it's just remembering the why, man. Why are you doing it? And making the sacrifices for that why.

Speaker A: And it's okay to not be an entrepreneur. So that's another thing that kind of correlates to this. If it's more important for you to spend as much time with your family as you can, and you're kind of putting your entrepreneurship in the back burner, then it's okay for entrepreneurship not to be for you. Not everybody can be an entrepreneur. Not everybody can. Not everybody should be an entrepreneur. You don't send you guys. That's why we always talk about your why. What is your why? You know, uh, if your why does not. If your why is I want to spend time with my family now, then entrepreneurship isn't for you. Because, uh, aside from the very few who can make it without much work. You're going to be working very long hours, especially if you have another job. It's just going to be the nature of being an entrepreneur. So if you are saying I'm too old to not spend time with my family, then guess what? You need to wait until your family is gone and like your kids are gone, you know, to college and stuff. And you can spend more time on that or you need to sacrifice that time or you just don't do it at all. And that's okay. Uh, I think people need to understand, people need to hear that it's okay for you not to be an entrepreneur and it's okay for you to work, you know, uh, 8 to 5 job if it makes you happy because it gives you time with your family. It's so you can be happy there too.

Speaker B: Well, I think.

Speaker A: But don't come to me about being an entrepreneur and then tell me you don't have time and you're watching a football game.

Speaker B: Well, I think that, that with social media and people posting their, their lives out for everybody to see, uh, entrepreneurship has become even more of the cool thing.

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: That people want to do because of people like Gary Ve or the, you know, the Grant Cardone and all these other fucks that like, I mean, that's their business. Right. Their business is to try to get people excited about entrepreneurship because it keeps them paid.

Speaker A: And don't forget that people. Grant Cardone's an entrepreneur whose job is to keep you fucking motivated.

Speaker B: Yeah. That's it.

Speaker A: So.

Speaker B: And that's not. That's not us. Right. Uh, our show, or at least for me, the reason we even started this show was to try to educate more so than anything. And, and I guess that's why you were saying, like, you didn't mean for this to be a guru episode, because we're not, we're not in the business of keeping people motivated. We're in the business of trying to educate people on different aspects of entrepreneurship. At least that's what we try to accomplish.

Speaker A: But in a sense, uh, we're educating people because we are telling them, look at your life and realize and evaluate where you're wasting your time. And really think about it. Really think about it. I'm a big spurs fan. Right. I have my spurs gear. Right. Well, you can't see it because it's podcast, but I have my first gear right here. Is it really important enough for me to go watch the 53rd game of the spurs on TV? Is it important to me? No, it's not. That's three hours I can spend on my podcast. Three hours I can spend on trying to find sponsors for my podcast, drafting emails, whatever the fuck it is that I can do for my podcast to advance it. Because you know what? Unless my kid is also a Spurs fan and a basketball fan, which he's not, at six years old, I'm not spending time with him either. So the only time I'm doing is spending with myself and the spurs, and that's just wasted time.

Speaker B: And the spurs don't give a shit about you.

Speaker A: They don't. The spurs don't care if, um, I'm watching or not.

Speaker B: Your. Your kid and your business give a. About you. But.

Speaker A: Exactly.

Speaker B: First, don't give a. About you. So if you had to pick two out of the three, some people pick. Some people will pick the sports team and the kid.

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: And the business. Even though the business would affect the kid.

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: You know, but the sports is more important.

Speaker A: And. And again, that's fine if that's what you want to do, but then don't. About. You don't have time to be an entrepreneur.

Speaker B: Don't come listen to my show then.

Speaker A: No, you can listen to the show. Just don't tweet me about how you don't have time.

Speaker B: Turn this shit off right now, God damn it. I don't even want you listening to my show.

Speaker A: You're wasting your time right now.

Speaker B: Yeah, go. Go watch your fucking sports. Go watch your movie. Go do your Netflix and chill. Um, um, see, I do. I do Netflix. That. That's my wind down time, but I'm doing fucking Netflix at like 11 o'. Clock, 12 o' clock at night when I've already finished, you know, working and putting my kids to bed and then going back to working till 11 o' clock at night. So I'm like, fucking burnt the fuck.

Speaker A: Not only that, but you're. You're also doing it as a way to wind down with your wife. You know, I'm saying now you guys are spending time together, but. Yeah, all I'm saying is, yeah, if you're working 12 hours a day and then you need a wind down, and your wind down is a. Is a game power to you. But if you're not working 12 hours a day, if you got off of work at 5 and then the rest of the day you didn't do shit, and then you tell me you don't have time, and then I, uh, you tell me you're gonna go watch a game. I'm not gonna feel Sorry for you. That's, uh, three hours you could have had.

Speaker B: Can you think of, can you even imagine the amount of lost productivity during the pandemic of all these people that were all of a sudden working from home? Yeah, because, you know, most of, most of them aren't working, you know.

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: Like, did you just, uh. It's mind boggling, but I mean, and,

Speaker A: and one of the things that, that uh. What, what book was it that you had me, um, that we read for a review? The four. The Four Hour Work Week.

Speaker B: Yeah.

Speaker A: Um, he talks about there about how, you know, one of the best things to do is work remote so that you can do your work and then start your side hustle while you're working. How many people did not take advantage of that?

Speaker B: That you. That's exactly where I was going with this. That's exactly the point I was gonna make, is that we, we've never, I mean, at least, uh, that I know, like, there's never been such an opportunity in the history of mankind. Right. Like

Speaker A: in our history, in our history

Speaker B: of, uh, of the opportunity that everybody, or not everybody, but mostly, I mean, just the amount of people that just had that opportunity of the four hour work week for over a year.

Speaker A: Yeah. And not, not only that, not only did they work from remote from home, but some people were not working at all and were able to live off their government, uh, stimulus.

Speaker B: Uh. I wonder how many people took advantage of that.

Speaker A: Yeah, lots of people took advantage of it. And I know people here who took advantage of it.

Speaker B: And I mean, advantage to be to like go into entrepreneurship.

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: Are really like really put in the grind into their, uh, side hustle.

Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know what you mean now. So. Yeah, I know people here who had the government stimulus, weren't working and didn't do anything because they don't want me with their life for one year.

Speaker B: But you know what? We need those people, man. It's like we talked about in our can everyone be successful episode. And whether it was a zero sum game or not, you need, you need people like that, you know, you need, you need the nine to fivers that are gonna come and fucking clean your toilets.

Speaker A: That is true. Then that's, that's exactly who. People who, uh, who don't take the time to really evaluate, you know, where they can spend more time on their side hustle are gonna, and I mean, I'm not saying they're gonna end up, you know, cleaning our toilets, but they will be our managers or they will be, you know, our present Division presidents, or they would be, they're going to be the low totem, um, you know, entry level positions. They can be any of those positions. But guess what? No matter what position you're at, you're going to be working for us, the entrepreneurs.

Speaker B: And that's okay.

Speaker A: And that's okay.

Speaker B: That's okay. That's okay for you, but don't lie to yourself.

Speaker A: Exactly. That's exactly what I'm saying. It's okay to not be an entrepreneur. It's okay to, to have a 9 to 5 job that is perfectly fine. Nobody is. I'm never ever gonna put somebody down for having a job and that they love. Especially never. All I'm saying is don't come at me saying you want to be an entrepreneur but don't have time and then post on Facebook that, you know, you're watching the game or, or give me constant updates on, you know, the NBA playoffs. Just, just don't.

Speaker B: It does aggravate me, uh, when I see that kind of stuff, uh, from people that supposedly want to be something. And it's not even just entrepreneurs, it's people that want to have, even people that want to have a career. Like younger people that want to have a career in something. And like I said, not even just entrepreneurship. They want to have, they want to have a good life. And, and it's the same shit. It's like you're still posting, uh, about, like I said, just smoking weed and hanging out with your friends on a Tuesday, um, at a, uh, you know, 11 o' clock in the morning.

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: And you're like, well, what the are you doing, man? Go read a book and educate yourself or go to college. Uh, college isn't for me, but it is for some people. Go to college at 11 o', clock, 30 minutes.

Speaker A: Writing, writing a page for your book that you want to write. You know, anything.

Speaker B: Yeah, anything. Like do something. And we've even mentioned this, like maybe you're, you need to block off your time too. Right. Like so for some people, maybe they work better in the evenings. So block off your evenings, you know, and write your book in the evenings.

Speaker A: Yeah. And don't mistake any, that what we're saying for. We've never been there. I've been there for many years. I was a guy who would get home from my job. I was in the military. I'd get home, take off my boots and relax for the rest of the day. You know what I'm saying? But at some point, and I used to be that guy who would watch spurs games all the time they were on tv, I'd watch them. Then in one day, just like I'm asking you guys to do right now, I evaluate. I'm like, wait, what the am I doing like this? Like Beto said, the spurs don't care about me. This game is insignificant. They're, they're, they're, they're going to be in the playoffs. Like what? This game is not going to matter whether they make it to the playoffs or not. What am I doing wasting my time 82 times a year for a fucking game that's not significant? I could be doing my, my videos, I could be writing for my podcast, I could be writing a book. I could be doing this or that. So I was there. So I'm letting you guys know, if you're there, think about it. Evaluate where you're at. Evaluate whether you're wasting your time enough.

Speaker B: And so let's say you've come to the realization of, uh, I'm never going to be an entrepreneur and it's just not for me. You could still be better. Like, you could still be better at your job by using that time wisely to educate yourself. So let's say, for example, because I've never been that person, man, I've never been that person to come home and relax. That's just never been me. So even when I used to be a programmer, I would, and I've told you this before, I would get home and I'd fucking read programming books and I would write test code on my, on my laptop while, I mean, yeah, maybe while the TV was on, but the TV was on more as like background noise. I was sitting there testing out code that I was teaching myself in the evenings after coming home from my programming job. So at that point in time, maybe I wasn't in so much in the entrepreneurial mindset, but I was wanting to better myself. I wanted to be the best fucking programmer I could be because I wanted to make more money.

Speaker A: Mhm.

Speaker B: And I wanted to maybe get into management and make more money. And so I was always trying to better myself. And that mattered more to me. Always. And coming home and relaxing.

Speaker A: Yeah, well, and it's the same thing in the military. People ask themselves, oh, how come I don't get promoted? But they do, or they get the awards. And I'm like, well, because coming home to relax while that individual is going home and working on their language skills or working on going to college and taking classes, or they get home, change and go to a charity event, you know, What I'm saying, where most of us go home, take off our boots, and relax. So why are they getting ahead? Because they're putting in extra effort. That's it. Yeah. They weren't. They weren't smarter than everybody else. You know, we're all pretty smart. We're language analysts were pretty smart. They weren't smarter. They just worked harder.

Speaker B: You know, you hit on a really good point there. That, um. And I've even told this. I've even told you this. That sometimes I'm like, hey, uh, we're smarter than that person. Right.

Speaker A: We can do it.

Speaker B: But you hit on a good person that ultimately it's not even about intellectual at all. Like, in. In trying to make it. I mean, yeah, you need to be some Somewhat smart, but it's more about the consistent and persistent, um, Effort.

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: That you put into something. So where some people would, like, wallow and, oh, you know, poor me. And I'm smarter than that guy. And he keeps getting the promotions, but that guy's putting in the work, man.

Speaker A: Yeah, exactly.

Speaker B: You might look at a, you know, Kim, uh, Kardashian or something, and you can bash her all you want because she, quote, unquote, does nothing, Right. And. And she's super famous and rich, but she's hustling out there like she's doing something about it.

Speaker A: I always, always defend Kim Kardashians. The Kim Kardashians, the Justin Beavers. I always defend him because people don't understand that, sure, Kim Kardashian now will get paid millions of dollars for product on her Instagram. She, uh, will now. But Kim Kardashian wasn't always like that. Kim Kardashian had to put a lot of hustle. And if you don't believe me, look at Paris Hilton. Where's Paris Hilton now? She had the limelight, just like, uh, Kim Kardashian. But where's Paris Hilton now? She's nowhere. Why? Because she didn't put in the hustle that Kim Kardashian did.

Speaker B: Yep. Kim Kardashian really put her back into it. Yeah.

Speaker A: And with that, thank you for watching today. And, uh, again, there's nothing wrong with being. With not wanting to be an entrepreneur. There's nothing wrong with succeeding at your 9 to 5 job and being happy there. There's nothing absolutely wrong. All we're saying is if you want to be an entrepreneur, or, like Beto said, you want to succeed even more at your current job, then you have to reevaluate your life and think about where you're wasting time. And my main point to this at the beginning was if you are spending your time, your Sundays watching six to nine hours of football, then you obviously don't want what you're saying you want bad enough. So that's all we're saying. Thank you for watching today. Uh, becoming Entrepreneur or listening to Becoming Entrepreneurs. Um, if uh, you look got anything from this episode, please give us a A rating, a five star rating share with your friends and like the show. Until next time. As I always say, go get it.