Episode 42: How to Pivot When Life Falls Apart with Paige Killian

Speaker A: Hey, friends. Welcome to the Angie Ambrosetti Show. Let her out to play. I'm Angie, your host, a teenage mom turned multi six figure earner married to the same man for nearly 40 years. I'm a homeschooling mom of seven and totally unqualified, at least on paper, but wildly called by God. Remember, he doesn't call the qualified, he qualifies the called. Here we are going to talk about it all. Healing from the hard stuff, uh, building a business with heart, raising a big family, walking in faith, and finally breaking free from the lies that said we weren't enough. So if you're ready to stop playing small, shake off the doubt and the shame and step fully into who you were created to be, girl, you are in the right place. Let's go. Hey, everyone. Welcome back to the Angie Ambrosetti Show. I am thrilled today to have my new friend, Paige Killian. She is the founder of Everything With Style, a professional organizing company helping busy moms like me simplify their lives and step into more peace and purpose. And girlfriend who doesn't need that. She is also a keynote speaker and a best selling author of I've got you, girlfriend. I just almost finished listening to the whole thing and I love it. And she is also the host of, uh, not one, but two charting, top charting podcasts including Mom's Organization, Motivation and Time to Pivot.

Speaker B: I.

Speaker A: After losing her community, which we were just talking about recently in the 2025 Palisades fire, she stepped into an even deeper purpose now. Helping women get organized, embrace change, which I personally don't like, and pivot with confidence. So welcome my friend to the show today.

Speaker B: Yay. I'm so excited to be here with you. I have really enjoyed getting to call you new friend. Uh, it was so, so it's so wonderful connecting with you, especially given that we have a lot of mutual friends.

Speaker A: Yes.

Speaker B: I'm really thrilled for this. I'm happy to be here. Thanks for having me.

Speaker A: Yay. Well, thank you so much. So why don't you just start out by telling us a little bit. Let's start with those fires, because that is heart wrenching. And when I heard you speak on the stage in at a line in San Diego this, uh, past January, I. I loved, I'm gonna say this right, I loved hearing it, but it was heart wrenching. I loved your story and how you expressed it and your heart and how the Lord really brought you through that. So why don't you tell our listeners a little bit about that?

Speaker B: Sure. And I totally understand what you mean by that, where you're like, I love hearing it, but also like, hate that for you, you know? Yeah. And whenever I do talk about it, whether it's on podcast or stage or wherever, I, I get that feeling because I'm very glass half full. Look on the bright side, Silver lining girl. And, uh, I have a really hard time with Dark and Twisty. And so, um, this unfortunately was dark and Twisty. It was, uh, devastating. Um, January 7th, 2025, I was actually on the phone with, uh, someone who became a girlfriend of mine. I had helped her publish her book and I was congratulating her on hitting bestseller. We were talking about her doing the audiobook and. Thank you so much. You're so kind to say you were listening to the audiobook. We were both sharing how now that we've relocated after the fires, we both, um, are in that long commute, uh, drive time. And so I love listening to audio books as well. I knew I had to have one. So thank you so much for listening to mine on that. Um, and also same with this particular client. We were talking about how she was going to do that because her book, it's called should have Seen that Coming because at, ah, age 53, she started losing her eyesight and she's like, paige, how am I gonna, uh, record this book? Like I'm reading this book on audio for people to listen. And so, um, she's fantastic. So we were talking that through, uh, that day and, um, found a way to bring somebody in to help her do that. And, um, and her book is outstanding. So I gotta plug that because she's just, she's amazing. Talk about needing to piv. And so, yeah, I had no idea that person I was talking to was definitely going to be super inspirational in a massive pivot that I was about to encounter. When I got off the phone with her, I realized my phone had been blowing up with all these text messages saying, basically, there's a fire in your backyard. And so I ran outside and smoke was everywhere. And it had been a clear, beautiful day and it was moving so quickly because if you know anything about California, we get the Santa Ana winds. They blow and they blow with a vengeance, gents. Couple times of year this happened to be the fire season and the winds were blowing that day over 80 miles an hour. And I went outside and it was crazy looking, like, not even real. I had just been to Tennessee, uh, gotten back a couple days earlier with my children. And I was doing laundry, you know, like the, the post trip laundry. So I was Doing all of that. And I had just folded a lot and put it on everybody's dresser. So I ran to where I just dropped off in the Harry Potter closet. You know, the Harry Potter closet underneath the stairs. That's where I keep my suitcases. Flung that suitcase back open, ran upstairs, literally grabbed every single stack. And my husband didn't go with me on that trip. And so I just ran to our room when I was getting mine, and I just pulled out a couple collared shirts, I think maybe a pair of underwear. And that's it. Like, poor man. I forgot to get him pants. Okay, so thank wearing pants that day, but that's it. And I launched them down into the suitcase below. And then I ran down, grabbed the, um, you know, like, envelopes full of birth certificates, social, uh, security cards, that kind of thing. We had envelopes of those in the office. Grab the dog, grabbed the dog carrier, ran back out one more time. It was in less than 10 minutes from when I got those. I was in my car, driving away, and you and I were just talking before we hit record about how crazy it was because I have a French bulldog. Thor, you were saying that you have an English bulldog. And I said, I have such a soft spot for these dogs because that day, I never should have received a text message that I received when I got to the. So our house is second, uh, to the end, where the gate is, where you go out of, like, you come out of your driveway, there's one more house next to me, and then it's the gate to leave. By the time I leave my house, I lose that WI FI service. So I have never gotten a text message up there, ever, ever. And I usually have to drive all the way down the hill, get to the bottom of the hill before I can get any. And that particular day, I got an incoming text message, and our neighbor asked, can you please go get our dog? So I went over. I couldn't even text them back to say, yes, I'll get the dog. They went and got our kids. My husband was in Pasadena, over an hour away from our kids. I went and got that dog. And then I get down Palisades Drive, which was our one way out, because the other way was on fire, and fire is just coming up around us. I have no reception. And for almost two hours, I was stuck there watching our community burn, watching people jump the median, drive down the wrong side of the road in a desperate attempt to get out. And Angie, when I say it looked like the apocalypse in my rear view mirror, I Felt like I was on the set, like a Universal Studios or something. It did not feel like real life. And I was watching. There were so many people behind me because I evacuated really fast, long before I evacuated, like, an hour before they sent out evacuation orders, um, in an effort to go get my kids. And, um, and I saw people that were way back behind me. A car lit on fire. Palm trees were falling, like, on fire next to me with palm fronds dropping down on fire. Ash was in the air, coming through my car vents. And then I was watching people abandon their cars behind me, walking down with babies or pets in their arms, sweatshirts wrapped around their heads to try to keep them from breathing in the smok. And then I'm just. I'm just like, this. This is not real. This.

Speaker A: I'm. I'm covered in goosebumps. And. And I've heard a lot of this story before, but it's. It sounds like the apocalypse.

Speaker B: It was not anything. Now I've got chills. They just went down my legs. Now I got to shave again. Okay. We were laughing, too, about that. See, we got it. We got to have, like, that, uh, comic relief in the middle of it,

Speaker A: where I take a drink of coffee.

Speaker B: Yes, take a drink. I'll take a drink of my pink drink. You do. I am rocking some wet hair today because I decided to try to do a ton of house stuff. And I was like, okay, before we get on, I'll just take a quick shower, because Angie deserves that. And then I ran out of time to fully dry my hair, and I was like, today we're just gonna have wet spring break hair. And you're in. Love it.

Speaker A: I mean, hey, you could have been swimming right beforehand. Nobody would even know the difference.

Speaker B: Yeah, sure. That's what I was doing. I was swimming. I was doing a little workout. Sure.

Speaker A: Um. Oh, well.

Speaker B: But truly, I mean, honestly, like, we really do have to laugh, because I looked at, uh, this whole situation. You know, I've had a lot of times. It's been over a year now, and our house actually caught fire. We watched it on TV the next day catch fire, and five houses next to us burned completely to the ground. Ours half burned. And then we ended up having a conversation with the firemen who were able to stop the fire. Well, they at least attempted two different times. And they kept seeing smoke coming out of our, um, chimney, because it was. Our chimney was very close to our back patio. That was the thing that it caught on fire because the house next door was so close. The fire and then the winds were catching. Those Santa Ana winds were just. Ah. And so our house actually caught the second day on the eighth, caught, um, on fire. And the wildest thing is that when we talk to the firemen, like, a week after it happened, they said, it makes no sense. Two times. We thought your house was goner. We had no water left, no resources left. The five houses next to you had completely burned to the ground. And all of the windows upstairs in our house had exploded from the heat of the fire from next door. And, um, all of, like, we had stuff blowing into our house from the neighbor's houses, um, on fire and just shattered glass everywhere. And the craziest thing is the firefighters were like, we had nothing left. We had broken down your door, we had gone in, we had used the last of our water, and we had no resources left. And. And they said, had your house continued to burn, everything to the east of it in the Palisade tidelands, would have gone because we had nothing left. And the winds that day were 100 miles an hour. And so they. It just kept catching, you know, it was like a dog effect and houses were going down. And so the craziest part is he just said, I looked up at it. This is the fire chief looked up at it and just, like, prayed, you know, God, we gotta stop this fire because we're gonna be in trouble with the rest of this community. And he said, it just fizzled out. It just stopped. No rhyme or reason should not have stopped with those winds. My. Our back patio was ablaze. Fire clearly was in the walls and burning all of the insulation. No reason that it should have stopped. And now I know while it's been really tough being in that limbo situation with the half house, we're only over a year later now. I was just telling you, I watched three trucks be taken away of what was left in our home and just they were calling it a total loss. It was like, you know, what if that meant that our house stopped everyone else's to the east of us from burning? Great, great success.

Speaker A: Well, the provision of God, you know, like, we don't understand why things happen. And when they stop in that instance, and they're like. Like the firemen, we don't understand why in the world did this not. But the provision of seeing that the rest of the community and the rest of the houses could have burned. Praise the Lord.

Speaker B: Absolutely.

Speaker A: Had you guys ever been a part of fires or anything like that? Because I know in California, like I said on the news, you know, that There can be lots of fires in California. Uh, yeah.

Speaker B: And there's so much interesting, um, conversation around that because, uh, we did live in an area that was prone to fires. When we moved in in November 2020, we almost had to evacuate immediately because I believe that was the Woolsey fire. And, um, we thought, oh, my gosh, welcome to the neighborhood. Whoa. Is this what happens up here? This is crazy, because we were up in the highlands, which is up near the mountains, and so the winds were so much stronger. So that' what it is. Not clearing that brush, not having water resources and the winds. And so I will tell you that there's a lot of political drama that's going on behind the scenes. And I've just decided to let the people who that is on their heart to deal with that, and they have the tenacity and the, uh, energy to handle that part of this whole thing. Because, yes, we did, in fact, know that we had insurance. We knew where the exit was to get out. That was the one that I said was completely on fire. I evacuated immediately long before they told us to evacuate. And, uh, so, um, because of that, I mean, I knew that that could be a possibility. And so I didn't wait. I got as little things as I had that I had traveled to Tennessee with my family is, uh, there in Tennessee. And so we actually keep a lot of our clothes and stuff there. And so I realized whenever I had packed, I joked and I said this. Oh, my gosh. I think I'm about to say it on your podcast, too. I said this from stage, unintentionally. And I was up there, and there's men and women in the room. And do you remember? I said. And I realized I was just rotating two pairs of panties after. And then I was like, oh, my gosh. I just said panties on stage. And I was like, panties?

Speaker A: Yeah. Uh, well, Brooke was on my podcast, and she said sex. So she's like, I just said sex on your podcast. I'm like, it's part of a language. It just is what it is. It is totally fine.

Speaker B: But we laugh because it. And again, that, you know, you gotta have. Oh, my gosh, you've gotta have that comic relief. But it was true. It was like, my husband didn't have any pants except for the pants he had that day. I had two pairs of panties. I was rotating. And, you know, by the way, everybody was a good sport. Everybody goes, you know, like, you just gotta. Whatever. And that's a huge part of this whole thing, is like, yes, we Knew there were fires. Yes. We knew there was danger. Yes. We still wanted to live up there. And we enjoy and we want to go. We want to rebuild, and we want to go back because that is our community. And God does not want us to have a spirit of fear.

Speaker A: Right.

Speaker B: You know, God's got a plan, and if it's going down in fire, it's going down in a fire. And I think other smart things to deal with that. But we had insurance. Thankfully, some people did not. We were unfortunately dropped from the insurance that we had had for many, many years before that, right before the fires. Thankfully, were able to get more insurance right after they dropped us suddenly. Um, and then it was like, well, let's see if we can make this work, because it's. It's not great. But we are moving forward. I just told you. The exciting news is that, uh, this past week, we started finally getting the ball rolling. And so, um, our contractor is wonderful. We believe that he is a good man with a great team. Our remediation company has been proven to be incredible already. And so, um, again, God is providing. We're just going to keep moving forward and laugh the whole way.

Speaker A: Yes, yes. Because the alternative is cry. So nobody wants to do that if they don't have to.

Speaker B: And we've done that. But moving on. Yeah.

Speaker A: Yeah. So tell us what has happened since. Okay, wait, let's go back first. Before the fires, you actually had a podcast.

Speaker B: Yes. So, uh, I had the Mom's Organization motivation podcast, where I help busy moms of littles get organized in three simple steps. Now, I do have some male listeners. Few Good Men. We love them, too. And they want to get organized as well. And, uh, it's so funny, too, because some of the moms would pass it on to the husbands, and then they'd see me in, like, the carpool line or something, roll down their window, or come up to my car and be like, hey, um, I know the importance of making my bed now, thanks to you, my wife sent me podcast episodes or, you know, whatever, keeping things organized and tidy and that kind of m. And so there are a few good men listening. Thank you, Joe.

Speaker A: I have to put a plug in for my husband because he knows my love language is acts of service, and he makes the bed every single day. He hasn't always, but probably for the last, uh, I don't know, four or five years, he even has timed himself because he's busy and he's ready to go in the morning. And so our, uh, we just moved into our New house a month ago. And so there's more pillows, there's a few more things. He said, I had the last one down to 1.22 seconds. I gotta get this one under two minutes. And I'm like, babe, it's totally fine as long as the bed's made. I don't care how long it takes. But he's, like, driven on that. So he got that. He got that memo.

Speaker B: Way to go, husband. I love that for him, and I love that for you. And the thing is, the reason that I made a podcast episode that was all about making your bed is because what it does for the rest of the day, uh, clearly he has that sense of accomplishment first thing in the morning. And that feels great. And it doesn't have to be something too hard. And I even talk in the podcast eps. Gosh, I haven't thought about it for a long time. I even talk about how, um, you know, whether it's your spouse, whoever you're sharing a bed with, if the kids climb in your bed sometimes, too, or if it's just. You make it as easy as possible. I do love a decorative pillow, too. I have to limit myself because I know that if I put too much stuff on there, it's going to then become frustrating and stressful. And so I just tell my husband he's got his pillow on his side that he can slap on there when he gets up in the morning, pull it up, and then when I get out of bed, I pull my side up, slap the pillow on, you're done. You know, really feel like being as amazing as your husband is, and you probably want to tuck a sheet under. Good for you. But, uh, sometimes you just gotta let sheet live.

Speaker A: Yes.

Speaker B: You know, and. But it is. There's something crazy about that sense of accomplishment. So little things like that. And, um, I started that podcast episode, or podcast, rather, the first one. I call it Mom Pod for short, because Mom's organization, motivation is them. Um, so, you know, I was a kindergarten teacher back in the day, and I was, all right, I still do. I still do. And so the Mom Pod, I had started that because I was. I had started my. Everything was style, my organizing company and business, and I was doing really well. And then Covid hit and we were quarantining and lost all my clients. And I thought, oh, I stay relevant. Well, I gotta pivot. And so I started the podcast. It blew up. Marie Kondo and the ladies of the home edit, Joanna and Clea, made organizing cool and fun and had their Netflix specials I don't know if you ever watch those.

Speaker A: No, but I. I know who. I know who you're talking about.

Speaker B: Yes. And maybe your husband would be into it, too, because it's there. It is. It is so fun, at least for me. I geek out over seeing the. I love a good reveal. And, um, seeing the before and after of a disorganized space to an organized space. And so they made that cool and fun to do. And then I had been doing that for years, and so I thought, I'm going to start a podcast. Because at the time, they didn't have a podcast. I was like, I'm going to start a podcast. I'm going to talk about getting organized and how we can simplify that. It took off. It just blew up. At one point, it was in the top 0.5% of podcasts in the country. And I. Or not in the country, in the world. And it's just because we were all living on top of each other, globally, we were all living on top of each other. And we finally had that time that was like, okay, if we're all home, we may as well get organized. Like, let's do this stuff that we've been putting off for all these years. What else do we have to do besides, you know. You know, like quarantine games and things that got, uh, old kind of fast. So that's what people were doing, and it blew up. And then after three years, I felt God tugging at my heart, saying, it's time to pivot. And I was like, well, that's kind of a good podcast title. So Pivot Podcast was born, and I talk about all these different things. Little did I know I was going to have the biggest pivot of my life when our home and community caught fire.

Speaker A: So he was preparing you to be ready to pivot when the time came?

Speaker B: I think so. And the funny thing is, I say, well, gosh, did I ask for this when I named it Time to Pivot? Is he giving? Like, this is a little too much content. I'd like less content.

Speaker A: You know, can we redo that, please? For sure.

Speaker B: I might have to rename it if this keeps going on. But I will tell you, you know, whenever I. I had a couple other friends who were podcasting at the same time, and we were. And. And they lost their homes completely. And, um, they're like, do we stop podcasting right now? Do we keep going? Because this feels really hard, and sometimes something's got to give. And for me, the choice was to continue actually using that platform to share this stuff. And when you've got a podcast called Time to Pivot and and then something huge like this happens, it is definitely a platform for that. And I didn't want to miss out on the opportunities to share really hard stuff. And so I shared the process of going through that really hard thing. I shared how I fell just two weeks after the fire, broke my leg, pulled all the ligaments in my ankle and I was then in bed two weeks non weight bearing in a wheelchair and a little scooter when I had to get around. And uh, I just thought, wow, God, I thought I was going to hit the ground running, be the person that help, helped with donations and getting things to people. I had a car full of stuff on the day that I did it that were meant to go to different people. Um, he just said, I have different plans for you, Paige, and this is going to be a physical sitting and waiting period because I have things to say. And I, I listened for a lot of months and I just shared what was coming up for me. I, uh, had other people on the podcast who could talk about their experience. I shared my uh, time with a therapist. Um, I talked about how I was having a really hard time and um, I needed to talk to somebody, I needed to ask. And so, um, it ended up being a platform that really helped me get through it. It was, it was therapy for me. And I, I think from what I've heard back, it was therapy for other people as well.

Speaker A: Yeah. Ah, well, I think for sure, um, I, you know, something like that, which I haven't been through, but I think anything that's, you know, traumatic, you know, big T, little T trauma, whatever that looks like that comes into our lives, like we need an outlet to speak about that. And I love what you said, um, about, you know, you and your former talking. Should we continue? Should we not like this, this big thing just happened. And I know there's been several things in my area or things that happen in California or things that happened in north, uh, Carolina a couple years ago. Um, a lot of people gave feedback like, hey, you shouldn't be trying to, you know, promote your coaching or promot. Promote your podcast or from, you know, promote what you're selling or whatever, because this. But at the same time there were so many people that were like, I need that, like I need to hear what you're saying. I need that encouragement. It sounds like you as well, like it was an outlet for you to be able to encourage others and give yourself the strength that you probably needed to get through that difficult time.

Speaker B: You're absolutely right. And thank you for saying that. Because one of the things that I would think when I would get on to record the podcast is at first I thought, okay, Paige, talk about fires too much, because there are a lot of people listening who didn't go through that. And then I was like, wait a second. No, it's. The people who are listening, first of all, are smart. Your listeners are smart, my listeners are smart. And they can tell that. It's kind of like just like whenever you read something in the Bible, you're like, okay, I didn't go through that exact same thing, but I can apply that lesson to my life. And I thought, I'm just going to share what I'm going through. And I love to back it up in scripture. And so a lot of times, whatever I was talking about, I would have some sort of scripture. Like, hey, by the way, when I was struggling with this, and then when I decided I was going to do a podcast episode, I just looked up what the Bible said about it And I've got Biblegateway.com on. That's one of my favorites because I love it. Yeah, it's easy, you know, if you don't have your Bible on you, and even sometimes you have your Bible on you, but you don't want to just flip to a thing and start reading, sometimes that's great and that's fine.

Speaker A: Uh, right.

Speaker B: Looking for a particular thing, being able to go find exactly. You know, ah, if you type in a keyword or phrase or something and then have multiple chapters in Bible that are talking about this particular thing, that was so helpful for me. So that's kind of the way that I shared on my podcast or from stage or even just talking with friends about this. I would say, man, I am m clinging to this verse right now. That's really speaking to me. Um, and then sometimes I would be talking to some of my clients who I also have, um, coaching clients that I work with. Not only if, like I was talking about at the beginning of the. The crazy story with the fires that I was helping someone publish their book, but I also help people when, if they want to work with me a lot of times in that pivot that they're in the middle of.

Speaker A: Mhm.

Speaker B: They do need the organization first. So we first will talk about, well, let's do some physical organizing so that way we can free up time in our brain and space brain to feel like we can move forward. And so a lot of times I was bringing in my examples and my. All that content. Yeah, I was bringing that in with my coaching clients for the first time, too, about the fires, because some of them were people that had gone through that and others weren't, and it didn't matter either way. The clients were like, yeah, I never looked at it that way, or, yeah, that's relatable, because this is what's going on for me. So I. I say that because if you've got listeners who ever feel like something they're going through is not something that other people understand, that's okay. They're either not your people or they don't get it, and that is okay. Right. Or they're people who maybe are listening to what you're sharing when you are brave and bold enough to share it, and they're like, okay, how does this apply to my life? And it's getting helpful because, just like you said, if it's something that you're going through, it may not be universally the same as far as what exactly happened, but it can be universally felt. Whether sad or heartbroken or questioning things or, you know, whatever it is, people understand all of those thoughts and feelings.

Speaker A: Well, and I was just relating to what you said about when you're coaching your clients, and you, you know, you bring in your own life experiences and, you know, the things about the fires or just whatever that might look like. And I know for me, when I'm coaching my clients, it's the same. Like, I always tell them. I'm like, we're on Zoom. And so I'm always like, well, I'm looking at myself when I say this, because I'm. I'm talking to myself, too, as much as I'm talking to you. Because without the life experience that I've had or you've had, how do we coach someone? Yeah, it's those experiences that we have been through that help us be able to help others.

Speaker B: Yes. And I woke up this morning to my sweet mom. She's so wonderful, and she listens to my podcast every day. And so it's actually been six years to the day that I started the Mom Pod. I looked at my calendar this morning. It was six years ago during COVID that I started the Mom's Organization motivation podcast. And so it's. That means it's been about three years since I started. Time to pivot. And I woke up this morning, and my mom was the first person that had texted me. I looked and she said, great podcast episode today. And I thought, which one is she talking About. I was like, which one came out today? So I, I went and I listened to it. Um, it's called Ask Bigger. And so I listened back to it because I was like, I wonder what made her say that. And she's always a supportive mom. She's wonderful. But I thought, I wonder what it was this particular day, this particular episode that made her like, great podcast. Like, I really love that. And then she was so funny. She was like. And then I was listening to Mel Robbins podcast later, and she said two things that you said and you're. She goes, she sent me a text and she goes, is she on your payroll?

Speaker A: She copied you.

Speaker B: Well, I think it's. I think it's back to, like, we don't have to have all these brand new ideas. We could be talking about stuff that is universally present in all of our lives. And so the, the thing that I was talking about actually talked about Amberly Lago and an interaction that we had on that podcast. And, um, I know. You know and love Amberly.

Speaker A: Yes, yes.

Speaker B: Um, and so I just was like, ask bigger for things that you're wanting. Allow God to be God. Like, let him flex his godliness. Yeah, something big. And say, this is the desire of my heart. If that's what you have for me. This is a big ask. But I'm gonna ask this and I'm gonna pray specifically and just watch him move. Just watch me. He has moved so much in this whole experience for, uh, us. And I'm overwhelmed. I joke that I have cried more happy tears than sad tears over all of this because people just have been so kind and generous and they want to help and they ask how they can help. And I learned really quickly, especially after I broke that leg, like, oh my God, I was like, laid up in the bed. I was like, I have to ask for help. Which isn't always easy for me. But I saw that it blessed those people so much.

Speaker A: Mhm.

Speaker B: Like, people want to be needed and helpful. Then I really enjoyed my work. My love language is words of affirmation. And so I really enjoyed giving them words of affirmation to be like, you are so awesome. Thank you so much for how you've shown up for me. I really appreciate you. And they just. You could tell that they just. Yeah. Oh, no, I love that.

Speaker A: You know, well, going back to, uh, biblically speaking, like, we have not. Because we ask not.

Speaker B: Wait, that's in the podcast. You just gave me chills. See what I talked about? And I found that verse and I was like, wow, this really. Oh, my goodness. Okay, God, I listen to that. Come on now. You did not pull that verse out of all the verses in the Bible. Now, Mel Robbins did not say that. But you just did.

Speaker A: But I just said it. And so I wrote down Ask Bigger, because on my way home today, I'm going to listen to that. And, um, the other thing I was going to say is that a friend shared this with me years and years ago, and I've said this on different occasions on my podcast. But God is such an amazing God, I like to say, because I heard this from my friend, God shows up and he shows off. Like you said, Ask Bigger. Because when we ask, and it is in alignment with what he wants for us, and we ask him, man, he can show up and show off so big. And who cares if it's egotistical, because he's God and he can do it if he wants to.

Speaker B: Absolutely. I mean, even at the align, uh, conference, I was not supposed to speak. I was not in the lineup. And I had prayed in 2024 that not only would I be able to speak, but I'd be able to speak on Brook stage. Out of line, because I'm just. You know, we love her. She's wonderful. Um, and not only does she have me speak at the VIP lunch, but she also, right before, like, days before, she reached out to me and she was like, okay, I just want to tell you, I hope you're okay with this. I actually just switched up the lineup, and I would love to actually have you speak on the main stage as well. And I was like, it.

Speaker A: I love it. Well, I'm so glad I was there for it.

Speaker B: Amazing. I'm so glad you were, too. But I was like, okay, God, I asked, right? And he says pray specifically. And. And I. I got that thing. But it didn't look like what I was expecting, because it was exponentially better. And then even being able to get you, meet you and be able to do this podcast and meet so many of these other amazing women, and again, a few good men there, too, who shouted Penny from the audience. Those angels, they're like, this girl's crazy. I'm sure. But, uh, it was fine. And so I just feel like, yeah, you're so right. And. And it is a nice thing to see show up and show off, because then we get to show other people who maybe, uh, are doubting his abilities. Yeah. How we can team up with God and we can, like, do these great things because he is making those provisions.

Speaker A: Yes. Yeah. And he just he just amazes me all the time. And so I never take for granted the things that he puts in front of me. And just like you having the opportunity, you. You've been asking and praying about speaking on that stage, and it.

Speaker B: It.

Speaker A: He showed up in that way bigger than what you even were asking.

Speaker B: Yeah.

Speaker A: Like, be careful what you pray for.

Speaker B: It's true.

Speaker A: Because you never know.

Speaker B: Yeah.

Speaker A: You know what I'm saying?

Speaker B: Absolutely. And, you know, can I just share three things that I now talk to a lot of people about with the, uh, the pivoting, not just thing, but when you're going through a pivot, because you're making me think of it now when, when we're asking God to do these big things. So I always share these three things, and I say in order to feel more confident when you're going through. Because usually when you're pivoting through something, it's an unknown. You're uncertain about it. You don't know what's on the other side of a pivot. You maybe how to pivot. And like, how am I going to get through this? So whether you've experienced a fire or you're going through a metaphorical fire, you know, whatever it is that you're going through, these are three things that I actually found that I kept doing over and over again. Do your research. So when I would be nervous about something or anxious about something, and I wouldn't know how I was supposed to move through it in that m. And I. I didn't feel confident I would do my research. So, number one, do your research. Because knowledge is power. So you're immediately, like, once you learn a little bit more about the situation you're going into. Like, for example, when I wanted to speak on the stage, I had to really dial in what it was I wanted to say. What is the message? What is God putting on my heart? How do we deliver that? For example? You know, whatever. Maybe if. If somebody is going through something with their business or even a parenting struggle or in a relationship, do your research. Figure out some different things going into that that could be tools in your tool belt. So do your research. Number two, focus on one thing at a time. Because it's very often the case where you get overwhelmed, and then you might not get specifically one thing done because you're starting a few different things at a time. I've found that if. If I will just laser focus on one thing and check it off my list. Like, I know this, this is a silly example, but like, this morning I had A bill. And I would pay on it monthly. And it was bigger than I had planned to pay. Like my monthly payments. I owed a little bit more, but I thought, how dang good is that gonna feel if I go ahead and just pay that completely off and I don't wait to do it the next, like doing in two payments. I was like, I can pay that off today. And it made me feel so good. I focused on that one thing and I was like, I got energy from that, you know, I love it.

Speaker A: Yes.

Speaker B: You like make that excitement. Yeah, you make that choice and you're like, dude, I should have done that months ago. Now in this case, you maybe didn't have the money, but it felt so good because I had it. And I was like, let me just take that off my plate. So focus on one thing at a time. You're going to feel so much more confident going into a change. If you can just focus on one thing at a time. Check that off the list. You start to feel more confident. And then the last thing is ask for help. And this is what made me think of, you know, really asking God specifically whether it's God, whether it's your bestie, whether it's your kids. I'll even ask, uh, the kids. I will ask my kids for prayer. I'll say like to my son, I said, I'm getting ready to go on Ms. Angie's podcast. Would you mind taking the dog? He's really good about that. If he's home and they just play downstairs together until I'm off. Sometimes there have been times when I'll say to Duke, you know, I'm really nervous about doing this thing. Will you say a prayer for me? And he's, he's so good at praying and he's 11 and he's really good at it. And so m. That's my asking for help. And I feel so, so much better after I've asked for that, you know. So yeah, my three things. Do your research, focus on one thing at a time and ask for help. And that just gives you that confidence boost that you need go into whatever it is.

Speaker A: Mhm. Well, and the thing about asking for help is sometimes because I, it's like ringing bells for me sometimes I'm like, oh, I don't want to ask for help. Because like, even this morning, for instance, I was thinking about my son. I was like, I. I really got a lot of things going on this morning and I want to get XYZ done before I leave. I'm like, could you unload the dishwasher. And he always does. But at first I was thinking, oh, I can do it. He. You know, but then just asking, hey, can you get the dog's food? Hey, can you take the dog out? Can you take the. Just. I mean, and sometimes they just do it. But when it's on that mom heart, like, you're like, it's right in front of me right now. I gotta have it done so I can check it off the list. And yeah. Just asking for help sometimes is. It's the simplest thing.

Speaker B: Yeah.

Speaker A: But it can be such a big impact.

Speaker B: It can. And not only do we kind of COVID how it. It's nice because other people then feel like they can help and that, that feels good to them a lot of times. Uh, but also I feel like one of the things that I've learned. Learned this in therapy. Had my little virtual therapist. It was great. Nikki. Shout out to Nikki. And I realized that it helps my, uh. What's the word? It's new. Oh, my nervous system. It calms my nervous system. And so asking. Because just like you said, how often, especially as moms, but also women, like, we just, it's in our DNA to multitask. We're like, oh, yeah, quickly do that while I'm doing this. And da, da, da. And sometimes our nervous system can be a little shot.

Speaker A: Yeah. Mhm. Well, I also liked what you said. Number two, focus on one thing at a time. So wearing many hats, as I love your hat, but as we all wear so many hats. Right. Like working for my husband, running my coaching, uh, business, the podcast. Or you know, running my network marketing business, raising my kids, having a bunch of grandkids. I'm, um, I get like, ding, ding, ding. Like, I feel like a pinball machine sometimes. And that's one of the things that Brooke has told me over time, she's like, set aside time. This is when you're working on Ambrosetti. Yeah. This is when you're doing the podcast. Because I get so much more done when I'm focusing on one thing.

Speaker B: Yeah.

Speaker A: Than if I'm trying to do little bits and pieces and I do it better. And my husband really appreciates when I do his work better.

Speaker B: That's a really good point. That's a good point. Because when we are focused in, it's like we don't have all those mental tabs open. And look, I mean, it's. It's easier said than done. Right? It takes a little practice. Yeah, you can practice. You can be like, okay, I'm gonna Do this thing today. I'm gonna ask for help. I'm not great at it. I'm gonna ask for help. Let's just see how it goes. And if somehow it blows up in your face. Okay. Don't be done asking for help. Try it again. Try it again. Uh, that asking for help muscle. I got really good at it. When the fires came and the broken leg and all that kind of stuff, I had to ask a lot of people for help. And I will never forget one of the sweet gentlemen, um, when we moved into this temporary house, there are a lot of stairs. And he was coming in to help us work on something, um, up here in this. This temporary house. And I started to go up the stairs, and I was limping, and he said, well, come on, girl. And he just, like, grabbed my arm, and he started walking me up the stairs. And I was like, I need. Okay, I have your cell phone number. You be careful. I'm gonna need to take you everywhere with me. And he' Just give me a call. I'll take you wherever you need to go. He was so sweet. Now, I did not have him take me wherever he needed to go, but in my house, when he showed up and we needed to go up and down the stairs when we were working together, I just would stand at the bottom of the stairs, and I would wait for him to walk over and give me that arm, you know, so we could walk upstairs. Yes. And bless your heart, that was.

Speaker A: Thank you.

Speaker B: I saw your sneeze. Um, and. Yeah, and he just would walk me right up the stairs. And I was like, man, this is so much easier than me trying to get up here with my crutches and feel unstable. And this man, I don't know, is helping me up and down the stairs. It's a little thing, and I'm talking about it a year later on your podcast. So it, uh, may.

Speaker A: Because it meant something. It totally meant something.

Speaker B: Yeah.

Speaker A: Well, I want to circle back to something that I. I guess I didn't realize, so. Or you can explain it to me a little bit more. But are you a publisher, or do you help people publish?

Speaker B: Great question. So I published my book with Landon Hill Press many years ago with the incomparable, absolutely amazing, beautiful on the inside and outside, Samantha Joy. We call her sj. And so SJ helped me publish my book and get that out with Landon Hill Press, her agency. And she was so sweet because many, um, times she would have people who were on the fence about, who do I publish with, what do I want to do to. She asked me, may I give them your information so that you can talk to them about the process? And then she said, every person that we send to you signs with us the next day. Like, what are you saying to these people? And I'm like, I'm just telling the truth. I just tell them how it really worked well for me and hit seller. And just the whole process was great. And so, um, I. And also a huge learning experience for me because I'd never done that. And then, um, a little while later, Samantha's brother suddenly passed away. And she, uh, called me very upset and was like, is there any way? I have got authors who are crossing the finish line, and I am supposed to be meeting with them right now, and I have to go be with my mom. And she's like, is there any way? She's like, you know, a couple of these people already, and we are getting them over the finish line, getting them to publishing. You'll have access to me. But she's like, this is gonna be. It was devastating for her family. And she's like, this is gonna be really tough. Um, and I share that because, um, she now shares that. And so. But at the time, she wasn't sharing that. It was very private and personal. She was trying to figure out how to navigate that. And I was so grateful. She reached out to me, a couple of other people who I know very well, and, and we just tag teamed getting those authors through what they needed to do. They published, I am thrilled to say they all hit bestseller on Amazon. They were like number one. And new releases, they are going on now to be known all over the world. They are starting podcasts there. I have helped a lot of them take their message from their book to the stage. I have coached them through that. And, um, so Landon Hill Press and Samantha Joy, that's who I partner with. And I get to be the phase two. So that's like the marketing part of it, where there have been a couple that I've helped with the writing process, but typically when they come to me, I'm not phase two book launch coach. And so I help them, um, cross the finish line and really make the impact that they want. And then a lot of them, like I said, will come back and talk to me about how now do we take the message from the book and share it on stages and podcasts, things like that.

Speaker A: Oh, my gosh, I love this so much because I am, um, in the process of writing a book right now. I'm working with Christina Simmons and also

Speaker B: uh, ah, I adore her. I adore her so much. She's actually going to be my roommate at Justin Shanks upcoming summit that we're going to be going to. I um, love her. You are in great hands. Amazing. And she just did an incredible TED TEDx talk recently.

Speaker A: I was there in person. I was there. I only live about two hours from there. And so when she told me it was this close, I was like, girl, I. I'm gonna be there. So she and I actually I heard her speak for the first time on Amberly's um, event last year. I didn't know her but she talked about homeschooling, adoption, all these things. And I was like, we're connecting here. I did not meet her there but like a week or two later we ended up being on in a mastermind with um, Jessica Papineau. And we were both on the call and so she's texting me going I want to meet you, I need to know you. And I'm like same like when I heard you speak. So anyways, um, I've shared a lot of my story with her and um, we've been working together for. I think we've had, I don't know, four, four sessions maybe together. And so she's helping me, uh, you know, get my story written. But I have a question for you. Is that, that. So how do you encourage people or what do you say to them? Which is encouragement, of course. When there's that up and there's those, you know, es and flows up and down all the time. Should I do this? Should I not do this? Is my story important? Is my story not important? Every time I'm like, okay, I'm up, I'm down, I'm up. Lord, if you don't want me to do this, close the door. If you do want me to do this, put people in my path. And I want you to know I did not know that about you. Number two, my last interview earlier today is actually working in publishing as well. And I'm like, lord, I did not know this about either of these women. And they're both my, you know, like we're. I'm recording today.

Speaker B: Mhm. Yes. Well, uh, I can tell you no question you are meant to put that book out, people. Me, I want to read it. I'm ready to read it it right now. Absolutely. Uh, and then you got to figure out a way to do an audiobook too because I love your voice, I love how genuine you are. So you got to figure out how to do that too, once it's out. So first of all, let's just speak as if it's done. Okay? God is on your heart, because that is the plan. And, girl, you can call me anytime. You can just say, like, oh, give me a word, because I gotta. I'm having a hard time so having people around you who are going to support you. You're in great hands with Christina. I've got your back. Don't you worry. You're going to get over the finish line. Don't you worry. Number two, I will tell you that one of the things that I preach about, no matter where it is, no matter what is involved, is the 1% rule. I lived by this when I was writing my book. I would. And this goes for organizing. This goes for whatever it is you're trying to accomplish. Use the 1% rule. Sometimes it can feel really overwhelming and daunting to tackle a big thing, writing a book, that's huge. It's not just the words on the page. Right. As, uh, the author, you go through all kinds.

Speaker A: Yes.

Speaker B: Ups and downs. Right?

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: You might not even have writer's block. Writer's block is a huge thing. But it could be where. This is what I feel could be happening with you. It could be the enemy coming for you, slowing you down. Because what you have to say is going to help people.

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: This is where you say what you've said, Lord, if this is what you have for me, show me sleep. Sling that door wide open. Don't just like, I always pray, like, make it obvious. Make it obvious.

Speaker A: I'm, um, a hard learn. Like, speak to me, please.

Speaker B: Yes, yes. I'm like, I don't do well with subtle. Can you make it a little more obvious? And so, yeah, so pray that prayer, which it feels like you're already on the heels of that prayer, doing great. And then also, you know, God can hear our thoughts, but he, the enemy, cannot. And so right out loud and saying, you have no place here in my life. You, you get out and you stop whispering in my ear these things. Because there, uh, is no place for you. You have no authority in my life. You have no authority in this book that is anointed by God. I'm working on something that is far greater than anything I even know to be right now. Because God has big plans. So you just, you just let the enemy know I have no time for you and you get out of here. But truly, I go back to that 1% rule. What is 1% better that you could do? Moving the ball Forward. So, like, for me, with opening my laptop, that was my 1%. When I was writing my book, it was like, I feel at war. Whether I'm, like, feeling like it's spiritual warfare or just like, I just want to be lazy today, or I just need to do mom things today, or I need to go organize for a client, or at the time I was teaching, I was teaching second grade. I've taught kindergarten and second grade. And at the time, I was teaching second grade, and I just was like, you know, I just need to start following my own advice. What's 1% better that I could do right now? And sometimes it was opening my laptop. Because what I know is that when I open up that lap, that's how I do you. Are you writing on a laptop or.

Speaker A: I'm speaking.

Speaker B: Okay. Okay, perfect. So then whatever that is. So, um, is it picking up your phone to speak into it or is it doing it in your microphone?

Speaker A: It's, uh, picking up my phone, and it's also recording via, uh, when Christina I are on the call, like, we record everything. So we're taking those nuggets. And then I'm also speaking into my phone and sending her, like, here's the transcript. Here's what I've said. You know, this is the story that's coming to mind right now.

Speaker B: Excellent. So, yeah, your 1% can be pick up the phone and hit record. That could be your 1%, because here's what I've learned. So, like I said, this could go for, like, organizing, too.

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: Let's say you've got mail on the counter and you're so annoyed by this mail pile, and you literally will, like, slide the mail over to clean, and then you slide the mail back to make your dinner. Or, you know, whatever it is, whatever the thing is, could be, like, entryway with the keys and backpacks and the chute, whatever it is. Right. I will then go to the mail pile, and I will say, just do one letter. One percent better open up one letter and process it. Right. So you're going to open it up. You're either going to pay a bill, or you're gonna be like, oh, this is trash. I'm gonna shred it and throw it away. Or you're gonna be like, oh, I read that cute card. That's so sweet. And then you've processed that. Uh, you know, like, stick it if you want to keep it or if you want to throw it away. Whatever. That's one. Oftentimes when I decide I'm gonna do one Thing when I just stop everything, I focus on that one thing, I do that one thing. Inevitably I stand there and I. Sometimes I make it through the whole mail pile. Sometimes I make it through six or seven pieces. Same thing with the writing the book. I would open my laptop, I would. I wouldn't say, I need to do 300 words, I need to do 5,000 words. I need to do what a chapter. Instead of doing open your laptop and start writing. You pick up your phone and start talking. Inevitably, more is going to happen, and there are going to be certain days where it's not working, do it again the next day. And other days, that's all you needed was to just stop and focus on it for long enough, and boom, God just lets it all flow. Yeah.

Speaker A: Oh, uh, thank you. That's so good. Yeah, it's just knowing that, like, the 1% of what you're doing, but also, like, I thought this is where you're gonna go, but this makes so much sense, too. Is the 1% of who you could impact huge. Yeah.

Speaker B: Look, like I don't own the 1% rule. You. I know talking about the 1% rule. And that can be your thing. Yeah. Think of one person that you're going to impact today, and you know that's going to be a snowball effect. That one man who was so kind, who helped me up my stairs. Now, all of the people listening today know about that one kind man. His name Donnie, by the way, which is my husband's name. Shout out to Donnie, my husband and that nice man. And I mean, you never know, he impacted my life. That was a kindness that he did for me that I have clearly not forgotten. And so, yeah, your book. And I mean, obviously I'm already impacted by your book. You haven't even put it out in the world, and I'm already rooting for you, and I'm already very excited to read it. I'm your one person today. But when your listeners listen, we're all going to be chomping out the bit to get this book right, listeners. Yes. They say yes.

Speaker A: Well, thank you, friend. I appreciate it. And I value your time so much. And I. I want to ask one more quick question, because I was trying to write this down while we were talking, but the mom's pod, that's Mom's organization. What was the last m. Um.

Speaker B: Motivation.

Speaker A: Motivation. Okay. Motivation.

Speaker B: Motivation. And, yes. The idea behind that is that, um, either you know what you need to do and you just need a little motivation for it, or maybe you need help knowing what to do. Because there's lots of different ways to organize things. And so I share three simple steps to organize all different types of things in your life on that. And there's like 160 something episodes on that. And now time to Pivot. That podcast is. Is also up and it's all about, you know, different things that we can also apply that to and, um, how we can get more confident in pivoting. And I've got some exceptional guests on there as well, and I just feel like I learned so much from them. So, yeah, both Mom Pod and Pivot Pod is what I call them.

Speaker A: So where is the Ask Bigger. Which one is that on?

Speaker B: That one's on Time to pivot. Okay. Time to pivot. I can even probably tell you. Let's see. I was just gonna say which one it is. Okay. Um. Oh, you know, it just popped up for me. Is for his glory. CEO, if you don't know. Ally Spitzbergen, she just interviewed me and we talked, um, on her podcast recently, too, about the crazy fires, but just about all the things. All the things. And I love, too, that you're. Oh, I can tell you right now.

Speaker A: Okay.

Speaker B: Is episode 124.

Speaker A: 124.

Speaker B: Okay. Time.

Speaker A: And what were you gonna say?

Speaker B: Oh, just that I, uh, love that even though I've talked to other people about this, I love how we're bringing up some new interesting things on your podcast.

Speaker A: Yeah.

Speaker B: Ah, love that. You know, it's the same thing as the book or it's the same thing as coaching somebody. Doing it in your own style. That's actually where I got my. The company name. Everything with style. It's all about doing it in your own style because, yeah, uh, you know what you need in that moment. And if you don't, you can ask for help and I'll sweep because I've got a girlfriend.

Speaker A: I love it. I love that.

Speaker B: You are so outstanding. You're such a great interviewer. You know, you mentioned before we got on that you want it to feel like a conversation, and I think we could just talk and talk about things.

Speaker A: We're besties, besties already. I mean, hello. One good, uh, you know, 45 minute conversation, drinking our pink drinks and coffee and who knows what's going to happen next.

Speaker B: Exactly. I look forward to hearing what's going to happen and seeing what's going to happen next with your book, but with us as friends.

Speaker A: Yes. I'm excited about. Well, thank you so much for being my guest today. I know my audience is just going to love you. And I just want to put another plug in, like, go listen to that audible book I got your girlfriend. Because I wanted to tell you this too, is that I, uh, I'm an organized person and I just moved into a new house, so things are somewhat, pretty much organized. But I was like, okay, I can pivot on this and I can organize this better and I can do this better because I want to simplify. And my daughters, they're like, please simplify so we can have all your stuff. That's their favorite. Can you simplify, please, so we can have some of that stuff? But thank you so much for being my guest. I so look forward to what the future holds for our friendship.

Speaker B: Me too. My pleasure. This was such a joy. Thank you so much, Angie.

Speaker A: It was awesome. Thank you guys for tuning in again today to the Angie Ambrosetti Show. And if you want to get in touch with Paige, I'm going to put of her information in the show notes below so that you can get in touch with her as well. We'll see you next time on the Angie Ambrosetti Show. Thank you. That's it for today, friends. Thanks for tuning in with me today. I hope today's episode stirred your soul, sparked your faith, reminded you that your story is far from over. Keep walking in freedom. Keep showing up bold, and never forget God. God doesn't call the qualified. He qualifies the called. Be sure to leave a review, subscribe or share this podcast with a friend who needs to hear it as well. Until next time, keep letting her out to play because the world needs your fire.